Dear Missouri Star Quilt Company

Dear Missouri Star Quilt Company,

Firstly, I have mad respect for what you’ve built. Jenny and I are super cool I honestly love her. I’ve done work with y’all a number of times. And I’m the first to celebrate another’s success because as one rises in the quilting industry, we all rise. However, your silence right now is doing harm to the Black community and harm to the future of the quilting industry at large.  

The story of moving to Missouri just trying to find a way to afford retirement and then transforming it into an amusement park for quilters is legendary. We all know it. We’ve heard you speak on it. We’ve watched you talk about it on YouTube and your website and Forbes and CBS This Morning and MSNBC. This is all spectacular and amazing omg I am living for the increased visibility of the quilting industry so much. So legit, thank you for all you’ve done. But with this visibility, you now represent the quilting industry for so many. So so so many. So so so so so many. You are quite literally THE face of quilting. And right now, your silence is communicating that black lives don’t matter. And if your silence is intended to maintain the business of quilters that don’t think black lives matter, that seriously breaks my heart and a legion of quilters that want racism to end. From what I’m hearing and reading, many of us are sorry that we gave you the money to build an empire only to silence black stories and black voices with it. 

You, right now, have a responsibility to the quilting community to do the right thing. We as a nation all need to stand up and say, “black lives matter”…. just as much as any other life. It’s so easy to say. Like so easy. So so so easy. So so so so so easy. American history is clearly and oppressive country, even with the white-washed account of its history in centuries of education. It was designed for White superiority and Black oppression. This country kidnapped and enslaved Africans for 250+ years. With freedom, came intentional mass incarceration to exploit a loophole to maintain free labor for the economy. The Black community accumulated no wealth, no standing, and even today there are innumerable laws on the books trying to oppress the Black community and make sure they achieve no wealth and no standing. I know you see and know this. And right now you can’t look away. Please don’t look away. 

Yes, I could have sent this quietly, but frankly I care more about trying to heal the pain you have caused to the Black community than y’all being a little embarrassed. And honestly, this can’t ignored. With your voice, you could pivot the ENTIRE quilting community to the path of anti-racism. That’s a lot of power. So please use it for good. Please. 

And honestly, I truly hope that I am wrong here. And that y’all have been doing a lot of anti-racism work behind the scenes. And instead of putting up a statement, you were really trying to figure out how to be a leader right now and implement tangible internal and external things to help end systemic racism and help shift the racist-leaning of the quilting industry to one of inclusion and equity and diversity. And I would eat crow like nobody’s business. Like all the crow. I’d eat it all. But a statement won’t do now. We need you to be the leader described above because, if quilting is going to survive beyond its current dominant demographic, we need to bring in younger quilters. And the kids aren’t down with racism. 

I seriously hope that this is received with love and true kindness for ALL. And I fully expect some popping off because we are all protective of Jenny, even myself. But right now, the Black community needs us. And had the Doans been a Black family and not White, they would still be struggling to afford retirement. 

With love and respect, 

Mathew Boudreaux

Mister Domestic


155 thoughts on “Dear Missouri Star Quilt Company

  1. Thankyou, Mathew, for saying what needed to be said. It’s too bad that Missouri Star thought that making a statement saying they support anti-racism would be construed as “look at us” HOW WARPED is that? Can I just say what people are actually thinking when such a large business, like MSQC, decides to remain silent on this watershed moment in history? They’re likely saying “I value not offending any of our clients who are okay with the status quo and prefer profits over taking a stance against racism.” At least that’s what it seems to me and the “We didn’t want to add noise to the issue” is empty and not believable. You wanted to disappear into the background and hunker down hoping the whole thing would blow over. Inconveniently for those remaining silent, it is not. Speak out. #blacklivesmatter #standinthegap

  2. Before everyone flies off of the handle and decides they will never shop at MSQC ever again, how about we give them a little time to decide what their response to all of the violence and racism is, on their own, without someone bullying them into it. As for the “still sending out promotional” emails-that kind of thing is automatic. I have watched a few of Jenny’s videos that she did since the whole Covid thing started and just from that, you can tell that they are working with a skeleton crew and have just maybe a lot on their plate right now trying to keep their company going with the pandemic. Then to slam them with a “racist” accusation that basically demands that they react “RIGHT NOW, RIGHT WAY” is certainly out of line. Yes, they should make a public statement, but it should be on their timeline, not yours. You verge on being a bully with this.

  3. I don’t understand what message you wanted to communicate to your readers when you wrote this post. How did you come to choose MSQ as the targeted company for your post when there are thousands of companies to choose from?

  4. How dare you to have the audacity to tell another business owner let alone a quilt shop what they should or should not do. It seems to me black lives matter only to criminals, like Floyd who was in the midst of commiting a crime, plus had illegal drugs i n his system and then had the unfortunate circumstance to run into a rogue cop. Your people and others who follow you destroyed minority businesses with your looting and rioting. But none of you spoke up and demanded the arrest of the person who shot and killed — assassinated really Lt. Dorn who was a black cop trying to protect law-abiding citizens. No, you don’t really believe black lives matter because if you did there would be as much if not more over the death of Lt. Dorn. So, no blacks don’t matter. ALL LIVES MATTER. And please understand that your risk of running into a bad cop goes down substantially when you do not engage in criminal behavior. I will be writing to Jenny asking her NOT to take a stance with regard to this mess. Quilters quilt for a variety of reasons, but not to divide this country or to have quilt shops take a stance on any particukar issue that you or anyone else deems they shoukd. And if you don’t like it that a particular business is not bowing to your whims, you are free to take your business elsewhere.

    1. Carol, your comment has got to be one of the most repulsive comments on this post–and you are not one bit ashamed to show us your disgusting real self. I’m embarrassed for your extreme ignorance, privilege, and pure racism on full view. YUK.

    2. In this country, people are innocent until proven guilty in a court of law. George Floyd was murdered. He didn’t get a chance for that court.
      When passing a forged bank note, the procedure is to speak with the person and try to trace where they got the note. Instead, after complying with the officer, he was simply and brutally, in front of cameras, murdered.

    3. CAROL EPPERLEY – I am curious how you know that Mr. Floyd committed a crime? He was arrested, tried and executed on the street in a little over 8 minutes. I was at a store yesterday with my daughter and I paid with a $20 bill. The clerk checked to see if it was counterfeit by marking it with a special pen. The whole time I thought of Mr. Floyd. Did he know he was paying with counterfeit currency? What if my $20 was not real? We live in a world where you can be killed over this if you’re black. I shared my thoughts about this with my daughter and we both paused at the deep sadness and anger of this reality in our country. All lives don’t matter if Black Lives don’t Matter.

  5. Black Lives Matter

    Hello quilting community, we’ve got a few things we need to say. Racism is terrible. Police brutality is unacceptable. Black lives matter. We believe that everyone deserves love, kindness, empathy, and compassion.

    We believe we are all children of God. We are family and if someone in our family is hurting, we’re blood and we need to support each other.

    Initially we didn’t want to say anything so we could spare the world another post that told you to look at us and how good we’re doing at supporting this cause that everyone is paying attention to. It felt self-serving. We felt like it would take the attention from the movement and put it onto us. It felt wrong. And in a sense it still does. We know many of you are taking action, publicly or privately, to show support, and not all those who care post it on social media. We realize that our silence has been interpreted by some as not caring. Let us be clear. We care. We condemn racism in all forms and stand with our brothers and sisters in working to end it.

    Helping those in need is in our DNA and the DNA of quilters everywhere. With the help of our customers, we’ve donated quilts, food, money, and more to people in need. Today, to further support those fighting injustices in our country, we’ve decided to implement a program wherein five $5,000 donations to charities will be made annually. At least one of those donations, for as long as we exist as a company, will go to causes supporting and promoting opportunities for BIPOC.

    We are still figuring out what more we can do and we promise to keep trying. If you come across a person who is in pain or suffering, would you just put an arm around them, give a hug, and listen to their story? Maybe even put a quilt around their shoulders. Life is hard when you feel alone, so please, love the people around you.

    Sincerely, Your Missouri Star Family

  6. Response from MSQC. Now please let them be:

    Black Lives Matter
    Hello quilting community, we’ve got a few things we need to say. Racism is terrible. Police brutality is unacceptable. Black lives matter. We believe that everyone deserves love, kindness, empathy, and compassion.
    We believe we are all children of God. We are family and if someone in our family is hurting, we’re blood and we need to support each other.
    Initially we didn’t want to say anything so we could spare the world another post that told you to look at us and how good we’re doing at supporting this cause that everyone is paying attention to. It felt self-serving. We felt like it would take the attention from the movement and put it onto us. It felt wrong. And in a sense it still does. We know many of you are taking action, publicly or privately, to show support, and not all those who care post it on social media. We realize that our silence has been interpreted by some as not caring. Let us be clear. We care. We condemn racism in all forms and stand with our brothers and sisters in working to end it.
    Helping those in need is in our DNA and the DNA of quilters everywhere. With the help of our customers, we’ve donated quilts, food, money, and more to people in need. Today, to further support those fighting injustices in our country, we’ve decided to implement a program wherein five $5,000 donations to charities will be made annually. At least one of those donations, for as long as we exist as a company, will go to causes supporting and promoting opportunities for BIPOC.
    We are still figuring out what more we can do and we promise to keep trying. If you come across a person who is in pain or suffering, would you just put an arm around them, give a hug, and listen to their story? Maybe even put a quilt around their shoulders. Life is hard when you feel alone, so please, love the people around you.
    Sincerely, Your Missouri Star Family

  7. Dear Mr. Boudreaux,

    Strangely, I haven’t seen you condemn the riots, property being burned, and/or the looting. I would agree with you had the protests been done in a peaceful manner but to try and force a company to support a violent cause of which we have witnessed on news stories is ludicrous to say the least! And the way you are going about “asking” MSQC to support Black Lives Matter is in a shaming, bullying fashion. How do you know if MSQC hasn’t donated to the BLM Movement? You don’t. People and companies should have the right to decide how to respond to situations such as this in their own time and in their own way without being branded a “racist”.

    1. MANY attempts of peaceful protests have been made and belittled.

      It isn’t replaceable buildings and products that matter. It is irreplaceable people who matter. People who for 400+ years have been denied the basic dignity, respect, and ease in living that a middle aged white woman like myself can so easily take for granted.

      I challenge you to stand in this new discomfort you are feeling. This is a tiny taste of the fear and distress bipoc have felt every day of their lives. Recognize the grace and mercy our bipoc neighbors show us every day.

      It is important that every business and institution lets the public know their stance. Silence is consent.

    2. Hopefully they have not donated to the BLM organization! All of their funding is sent to Democratic candidates. None of it goes to the black community. Anyone who is falling for the lie that the organization cares about black people is a fool!

  8. I believe that you could have written an OPEN letter to every quilt and sewing shop in the business to help with Black Lives Matter. What about Quilt in a Day, The Fat Quarter Shop-etc.? I believe that was not the best way to call out a company that has helped their hometown.

    1. Many companies DID stand up. Fat Quarter shop put out a statement and donated to a Black organization 2 weeks ago. They also donated to the fundraiser. Bernina, Tula Pink, Jaybird Quilts and many others all put out statements in support. Jaybird and others also donated to the fundraiser. Missouri Star is a huge industry leader and their silence was deafening

    1. You applaud bullying, and hateful speech – this was nothing short of slander and if this hurts MSQ one bit, I hope they sue his pants off. He has no right to tell another company what they should or should not do and how they should act.

      Most quilters sew to get a break and away from the ugliness of what is going on in our country right now. People are also fed up with the political strife and want to go somewhere free of hate and all of the nastiness and you bring bring, over and over. Just because we want a break does NOT make us racist – it makes us tired. Tired of the yelling, the lies, the manipulation and frankly tired of people telling us how we are to think, act and respond. He does not know about her family – for all he knows there could be people of color in her family.

      What happened to George Floyd was in-excusable, And that officer is being Rightfully charged, but she did have a point that if you are not in the process of committing a crime your chances of having a run-in with the authorities goes way down. To put someone who has 7 felonies, one of which was assault with a gun on a pregnant woman, on the same level as Martin Luther King is insane.

  9. How dare you presume to bully MSQC, or any other company, into a stance on some political issue? What in tarnation has quilting to do with ANY political issue? You are so completely off topic with your comments. Silence on any matter just means that a point is private and not an issue to be commercialized. Something that you seem to have completely backwards. Back off, bully!

    1. Just by asking ” What in tarnation has quilting to do with ANY political issue?” you have put your ignorance on FULL display. You know NOTHING of the history of quilting.

      N O T H I N G

      Racist Bully Bitch.

    2. “How dare you presume….?” I see you managed to avoid calling him uppity, but that might just be luck on your part. You’re the one who is off topic, I’m afraid to say.

    3. It’s not political, it’s human rights. It should be all our business. If one person isn’t safe then none of us are safe. Learn about the BLM issues. Study. Read. That’s what I’m doing. Be part of the solution.

  10. Matthew, thank you for shining a spotlight. Given the current situation in the world not is NOT the time for silent protest or silent support. We are all looking at you to see if you will lead or fall by the wayside. As a woman of a certain age, a lifelong quilter and a member of the human race I applaud you Matthew.

  11. Matthew, as one who has been vocal in the past, I applaud you and I love your gracious and generous heart. Please continue what you are doing. I am praying for your safety, because people can be evil. You are right in speaking out. I love your knowledge and understanding of what we Black people have gone through in this country. God love you and bless you.

  12. A brave thing to do, and kudos to you for it. Obviously you knew it would raise a ruckus and yet you did it anyway. Bill Penzey of Penzey’s Spices has led the way over the past few years with this kind of civic responsibility, and it has actually helped his business. You would think that companies would learn from that and stand on the right side of history for economic reasons if not for ethical ones!

  13. There are a lot of assumptions here. First of all, we don’t know what MSQC is thinking. There are many folks who are not vocal, but care deeply. And they are putting their thoughts into action. They are protesting quietly, helping out local schools where kids have food problems, shopping for their local school people, etc. etc. So before you publicly call out a company, please ascertain what they are doing. I’d also like to point out that every day I get some major company’s email declaring BLM. I’m not sure whether those companies actually practice what they preach. So don’t assume that sending out a large email with bold letters actually means anything.

    Second: I’m a little old lady. I’m white. I believe strongly in BLM. Don’t lump little old ladies into one category. Don’t assume that “elderly” means stupid, or non-compos mentis, or racist, or part of the patriarchy.

    Third: Just because a guy wrote this post doesn’t mean that he is telling women what to do, think, act. So don’t put words into his mouth. Don’t assume that he is part of the patriarchy.

    Bullying solves nothing. You don’t know what goes on in people’s lives. This is a helluva time. between the virus, serious racial issues, police behaving badly, and a callous, uncaring federal government, we are living in war time.

    We are seriously in need of some civility in this country. We are seriously in need of treating our fellow black human beings with dignity. Don’t make assumptions.

    1. I think Matthew’s point is that now is not the time to protest quietly, and for the precise reason that we can’t know what someone is thinking unless they speak up, just as you have. I hope that companies that have a huge audience, take the opportunity to use their voice and support racial equality. I’m not supporting any company that doesn’t. Speaking in one voice, and with compassion, can often cause a person to rethink their position. Whether it does or not, silence is not an option.

  14. Ignore the angry comments Mathew. You’re on the right side of history. If someone, anywhere, in the quilt community in 2020 is disturbed by the phrase “Black Lives Matter” they need to examine their own fragility and complicity.

    Keep speaking up.

  15. Thank you for speaking up. Hopefully Jenny and the family are quietly planning a massive effort to declare Black Lives Matters, and put African-American quilters, fabric, teachers, etc. front and center.

    If that doesn’t happen, they’re sadly on the wrong side of a sordid piece of American history. We’re standing at a historic, watershed moment, and silence = complicity.

  16. Who knows, maybe the Missouri Quilt Company is working quietly behind the scenes by donating money to various activist or black organizations or doing other things. Who are we to judge without knowing all the facts? In your face activism isn’t everyone’s cup of tea and so we each have to do what we CAN do. Every bit helps. Racism has been a problem for a LONG time and it isn’t going to be solved overnight even though we would love it to be. Begin by being KIND to your neighbor no matter the color and by living an ethical life.

    1. You need to get a life. Keep your nose in your own business, just because words are not spoken out loud doest mean they don’t care. Actions speak louder than words

      1. Wait. So Matthew should “keep his nose in his own business,” but it’s A-OK for you to tell him to “get a life” and MYOB on his own blog? Gotcha.

      2. Jane, When people do noble things, they are exited about them and love to share. This company didn’t and Matthew spoke to them and held them accountable. Sounds like you need to dig deep into your personal wounds and try to do better.

  17. Matthew,
    Thank you for your letter. I am one of the “old white women” mentioned in a comment above. I support you in what you said. Thank you for saying it. This needs to be said in all venues and all parts of our lives. One cannot separate our hobbies and jobs from our lives. Politics influences our lives and has a place in all aspects of it.
    Black lives matter.

  18. This is so well said and an exceedingly reasonable ask given the gravity of the situation. Thank you for taking the time to reach out to them and for all of your other inspiring work in this arena!

  19. MSQC has become a leader in the quilting industry and with that comes great responsibility to represent ALL quilters. I agree with Matthew, their silence is saying quite a lot about which quilters they want to represent in the future…it’s a shame…

  20. I’m not understanding why you’re attacking MSQC. Our leaders in DC need attacked. They can make the change, not business owners. Write you letter to your Congressman. Write your letter to police chiefs. Businesses are being attacked and robbed by violent people. Pray to God Almighty!

  21. Thank goodness a White Knight rode along to save all of us silly women from ourselves.
    Thank you for riding in and telling us all what to do and how to feel just like so,so,so many men have done in the past. So, so, so, so many men.
    Thank you for collecting items from mostly (possibly all?) women and auctioning them off, using our hard work to look like a woke hero.
    Thank you for teaching our daughters that women can do anything when a man instructs us on what we should do. You are a true beacon of hope.
    Allies surrender the stage to lift underprivileged voices, you only seem interested in pushing everyone else off stage and giving a soliloquy.

    tl:dr: you have become a sexist bully whose only interest is amplifying his own voice.

    1. while your feminist outrage is admirable, I have often laughed at the men wanting to mansplain on quilting sites, and such. This time I think he is entitled to his opinion and I don’t feel he is telling all women quilters what to do. I liked your point though.

    1. Then you need to read up on why saying that in response to #blacklivesmatter just shows your white privilege. Try listening more and talking less.

      1. This right here. While yes, all lives matter, for 400 years, black lives haven’t mattered quite as much as white lives. For anyone that says “all lives matter”, please examine why you’re saying that.

    2. The important word in that phrase is “Matter.” Your statement is off base and a reflection of your privilege.

    3. Fucking racist. You don’t get it. All lives matter but it’s the blacks being killed in the streets. Wake up. Learn something. Do better. That’s what I’m doing.

    4. I’ll put it this way – Maybe you can understand. 9/11 was horrible! We are told we should NEVER forget. I lived in NY prior and cried when I watched the Twin Towers fall. Wouldn’t it be insensitive of me on, 9/11, to say All Buildings Matter in equal measure?

  22. I personally messaged MSQC once about this as well as once in regards to their poor response to Covid. I was polite, kind, respectful and asked for a simple response … I received none. I loved Jenny, her story, and her business model. She is a leader in the quilting community as well as someone that I personally looked up to. I am so disappointed about their lack of leadership. So my response is simple and really the only one that matters…I will no longer spend my $1,000s of quilting dollars annually at the MSQC.

    1. There ya go.same as me. Speak with my wallet. I give my money to companies with courage to stand up for what is right.

    2. Yep. I think if they’re working “quietly behind the scenes”, then we can also by spending our dollars elsewhere.

  23. It’s hard on a business as can be seen by responses here and the very varied response. From a business perspective, a lot of quilters are older white women. Taking a stance can effect their business in a very negative way. While they personally their thinking may be right on track, they’re maybe protecting their business in the way they think is best. It may not meet everyone’s desire for response, But it’s what feels best to them. At least their response is not the other way!

    Peace, love and learning to all during these crazy times.

    1. “Older white women” need to wake up and understand that they are part of the problem if they’re too fragile to see the desperate need for anti-racism work and that Black Lives MATTER.

  24. I think that the Doans are thinking right now of how they can help the Black Lives Matter campaign in a concrete way. It is a pity when political activism turns into a PR campaign. Awareness is important, but behaviour and how you treat people in the real world matters more. This blog post is misplaced, mistimed and inappropriate because it (a) makes an assumption of moral superiority (b) assumes that everyone should respond in the same way at the same time and (c) gives no right of reply. Is posting a black square and a hashtag on social media really going to change matters so much?
    I’d prefer to see YOU make a statement about your business affairs and how you intend to make life better for everyone. Bullying and public shaming are exactly the opposite of the fairness, equality and compassion that black lives matter is all about.
    I bet MSQC won’t rush to work with you in future.

    1. I totally agree! Just because they are not plastering BLM all over social media does not make them racist. This has gone too far. I love my black brothers and sisters and think George Floyd’s death was despicable but there is a right and a wrong way to seek justice. What about Native Americans, elderly barely living on fixed incomes, children abused in their homes, babies being slaughtered? America is on a downhill slide that posting black squares on electronics is not going to fix. Hearts need to be changed and the only way to do that is to come into a relationship with Jesus Christ.

  25. I won’t be shopping with MSQC until this is cleared up.
    Which is a shame because I love their booths at the shows (Road to California specifically)
    I am choosing to spend my money with companies that have made a public statement.
    In our current climate… silence equates to death. We have tried to be patient… and quiet… and polite. We try not to discuss this sort of thing in public for fear of offending someone
    Now… frankly… i don’t care who’s offended. If my shopping habits and these opinions are offensive to you…. then you’re part of the problem.
    If you feel that someone stating that they won’t shop with a company that won’t publicly denounce racism… then you are just as racist as the person that killed George Floyd

    No more money from my pocket… for racists

  26. Just a quick note RE: the Mormon faith. While its history is as described, this doesn’t explain MSQC’s silence. Mitt Romney — also a lifelong Mormon — marched in D.C. on Sunday and said the three little words that mean so much to so many: Black lives matter.

    I love MSQC. I learned to quilt watching Jenny’s videos. I love the enormous impact the Doans have consciously made in their adopted hometown. I love the way in which the company has become, as Matthew notes, a leader in the industry.

    From a long career working for two companies that are market leaders in their industries, I have experienced firsthand that with leadership comes special responsibilities. Setting the ethical tone for the industry and modeling inclusion are among these. Companies that don’t take up this mantle don’t stay market leaders for long.

    Like Matthew, I’ve been struck by MSQC’s silence. This seems to be a watershed moment, when we as a country have the opportunity to bend the arc of history. Every voice matters. In the quilting industry, because of its market power, MSQC’s matters more than most. As a MSQC fan and loyal customer, I want the company to speak up. This isn’t a political issue; it’s a human rights issue.

    Reasonable people can disagree about tactics. Matthew did what he believed would be most effective, and it’s grossly unfair to suggest, as at least one commenter has, that he’s making this about him. That seems absurd. What I see is an honorable man — who has proven his honor more times than I can count in the scant two years that I’ve been quilting — tirelessly exhorting his industry to recognize the present moment for what it is — the best opportunity we’ve had to overcome our country’s “original sin” and move closer to our aspiration that all Americans enjoy the same basic rights: life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness.

    I fully support Matthew’s efforts. God love him, in fact, because his was the first — and has been the most persistent — voice in the industry.

    1. Big deal. Mitt marched in a parade and said Black Lives Matter as a lifelong member of a racist church. No doubt he was a missionary pushing these views while believing his Book of Mormon that their members are “white and delightful”.

  27. Absolutely unacceptable. I have unsubscribed from your Facebook Page and I will never watch another YouTube video you make. What a huge disappointment. People are entitled to make their own decisions about what they want to stay silent on, or what they want to voice an opinion on. You are way out of line.

    1. I agree! He is dictating how someone else should express their views and forming a judgement just because they may choose a different forum to show support. Everyone is not called to take a stand for right in the same way. He is judging without knowing their heart.

    2. I agree; not plastering their website with BLM does not mean that they don’t care or are racist, perhaps they choose to keep their business just that, and not personal. One can believe in something and still choose to not publicize it. By the way, just for clarification, the USA has not been a country for 250+ years (as stated in Matthews letter)) therefore could not have had slavery for 250+ years (use proper facts in your bullying).

  28. I think it’s everyone’s choice to do what they want and what they feel is right. I have never done anything in my life to treat anyone of color, lol, we all have color, with disrespect. I think it should be an All Lives Matter. I know all about why it isn’t, but if white people, Hispanics , Chinese, gays etc can protest with the BLM group, then show the respect to all of those that I just mentioned and make it all lives matter. I actually feel like BLM is racist. What if the white population started a WLM. What if we had a white Miss America Pageant? I don’t have an ounce of prejudice in my body. I raised my children to respect everyone. I grew up in a household where blacks were called more names than I can ever remember. I vowed as a child to never repeat those words or disrespect anyone. I’ve kept that promise. I am not ashamed that I am white. I grew up in Irvington, NJ. Look it up. I grew up poor. I watched my mother work two jobs most of my life. She is 95 years old. It made her strong! I swear that’s why she is still with us and has every bit of her memory. My “white privilege” wasn’t easy. That by the way, is a racist comment. I worked my way out of a ghetto. It wasn’t easy. It was damn hard. So to me ALM… that includes everyone. May God Bless all of us! Peace!

    1. You don’t get it. I’m sad because there are people who are willing to listen and learn and then there are people like you. Everyday people wake up black and automatically are not good enough in the eyes of others. Your whiteness never held you back or made someone fear you. That’s white privilege. My 14 yr old nephew was riding his bike in an upscale Portland Or. neighborhood. Was stopped by two cops and thrown to the ground. His crime? No bicycle light and he is black. Oh and he lives in one of those fabulous homes with his family. That’s why BLM. This does not happen to people of white privilege. Don’t feel guilty. Embrace your skin color and listen and learn and I will do the same.

    2. Please try to educate yourself as to why it is damaging to respond with “all lived matter”. Look at it this way – you had a hard life and worked hard to get out of poverty. So did I. But, as white women, our skin color helped, not hindered, our ability to do so.

    3. There is a WLM movement, it’s called white supremacy, or also Nazi’s, or the white nationalist movement, or the KKK, take your pick. I probably shouldn’t bother replying to such ignorance, but seriously did you not go to school or ever learn any history?

      1. Yes, you are right but the difference is that they are looked at with disgust and disdain. People are not bullied into Backing the KKK. Your hypocrite ways are showing.

    4. Perhaps it would make more sense to you if you think about the sad point at which your mother dies. You tell a friend, and that friend says “All Parents Matter.” The important word here is MATTER. White privilege is a hell of a drug, and saying that is a racist comment is pure nonsense.

  29. Why does everyone have to state their opinion? If it’s not the right one they immediately get criticized. What happened to everyone can make their own choice? I really don’;t agree with forcing people to express their opinion. Quilting has nothing to do with this issue and you are way out of line.

    1. Everyone doesn’t get to make their own choice when it comes to basic ethics and humanity. He’s 100% right and shame on you for trying to shame him. Quilting is an art like any other and if you think art can’t be in the conversation of what is right and ethical then you’re blind.

    2. Because it is not about a person voicing their opinion. It is about a company. And I have the right to know where a company stands on any matter, political or otherwise, so that I can decide whether or not I want to support them with my money. For example, if I read about a company donating to anti-LGBQT organizations (Hobby Lobby), you can be sure they won’t get my money. So yes, it matters where companies stand.

      Go Matthew!

  30. Mr Domestic, the proper way to approach this would have been to personally contact Jenny (MSQC). Everyone has a right to speak out, or not to do so. Your trying to force a situation by calling them out on a public forum.
    Very rude…not cool.

    1. There is a time for being polite and a time to stand up for what is right. Keeping people from being uncomfortable has gotten us in the situation we’re in now.

    2. Many of us have contacted them personally and gotten no response. In fact, I got a survey asking if I was happy with their customer service. So disappointing. Will never spend another dime there.

  31. It’s their business and shouldn’t be bullied into doing something. Every life matters. You have an opinion that you feel passionate about but that doesn’t give you the right to condemn someone else. It’s time to stop judging.

    1. Not forcing the situation and keeping people comfortable got us into the position we’re in now. There’s a time for being polite and there’s a time for standing up for what is right.

    2. Black lives matter explained according to scripture in case you still don’t get it.

      Jesus in Luke 15

      100 sheep, but one goes missing.

      Jesus leaves the 99 and goes after the one.

      The 99 ask “But what about us? Don’t we matter?”

      Of course the 99 still matter but they’re not the ones in danger.

      The ONE is.

  32. Thank you! BLM cannot be ignored, especially by white privileged folks. You hit the nail on the head – if they were Black they would still be struggling. It’s one thing to remain publicly silent because you’re reflecting behind the scenes. But it speaks volumes to continue daily promotional emails without any mention of BLM.

    1. I feel that remark in itself is racist (if they were black they would be struggling).
      Really……think about that statement! What are you saying?

      How is “shaming” people helpful? Is it really going effect change?
      People have the right to bring forward their opinions in their own time.

      Let’s trying loving people during this time of turmoil, rather than tearing them down. We love our black brothers and sisters and need to focus on the prize, rather than get mired down in finger pointing and name calling.

      1. That statement is quite accurate. Are you not aware of the economic disparity between whites and minorities? Nothing racist about statistics

    2. Jenny Doan is a white woman who built a business with her quilting talent. She is successful. How can you know that she wouldn’t have been successful had she been black? Michael Jordan is black and his success was due to his talent in basketball. Are you saying he wouldn’t have been successful if he had been white?

      1. Name a famous Black quilter. When you go to a quilting show, how many Black people do you see? Do you think that’s because Black people don’t quilt or sew??? Because they do but they aren’t welcomed in the quilting world because white women have made it clear they are not welcome. If you don’t believe me find Black quilters and sewists on instagram. ALL of the ones I follow have been talking about how racism forced them out of the quilting world. Jenny got started because she was able to get a loan and business in Missouri to start long arm quilting. Systemic racism means that if she were Black she’d have been significantly less likely to have gotten a loan and significantly less likely to have gotten business from her white neighbors

  33. Mathew, are you really sure you want to go this route? It’s not cool to destroy a person’s or a company’s reputation just because they don’t respond to something totally unrelated to their business the way you want them to respond. They are a business, not an activist organization. You did the same thing to Brother. No, not cool at all.

    1. Silence in the face of evil is itself evil: God will not hold us guiltless.
      Not to speak is to speak.
      Not to act is to act.
      Dietrich Bonhoeffer

  34. Well said Mathew! Silence says so much. I’m sure I won’t mind taking my business elsewhere should the silence continue.

  35. Dear Mr. Domestic… I will, as soon as I finish this note to you, unsubscribe from YOUR web site. How dare you attack the Doan’s and how dare you assume that the Doan’s and Missouri Star Quilting isn’t doing anything about racism. I say you have one heck of a nerve railing against a privately owned business that has done wonderful things for their town and I have no doubt that they are working in the background. Your grandstanding with this letter and you know it. Trying to bully others while trying to appear a champion for the black community. I saw your letter to the Brother Sewing Machines earlier today and it was just as vile as this one. DID it ever occur to call Jenny and as her for her thoughts and confirm what you believe, but don’t really know, what the Doan’s are or are NOT doing. Your shameless letter casts an appalling stain on YOUR reputation… Think about that as you choke on that crow.

    1. Kathleen, with all that’s going on right now, wouldn’t you think MSQC WOULD have made a statement of support by now? Mathew just believes in this passionately and recognizes that silence is NOT a good sign. We all need to step up to help support the black community. It’s high time we put an end to racism! And his letter is not nasty – his concerns were stated along with showing love and admiration for the company. Bless you.

      1. No Ma’am. What he did is start a crap storm over something he had no business doing. Under the guise of being humble, he very forcefully and publicly challenged this company by bullying them into making a statement in accordance with HIS beliefs. To make a statement with anything less than what he said–regardless of how they feel–is to possibly put MSQC in jeopardy. They are certainly under ZERO obligation to do so. And in deed, their lack of comment in the community as of this moment has ZERO bearing on the outcome of this horrid situation plaguing this country. The quilting community is NOT a political or divisive community, but it has included ALL races and sexes without question. WHY would MSQC have to make a statement on the obvious? You’re kidding, right?

        No. What he’s actually done is attack their business–and quite possibly their ability to continue as they have in the quilting community for as long as they have–WITHOUT any question to the color of any individual who patronizes the MSQC business.

        Other than Brother and MSQC, who else has this man attacked? If no one else, why?

        If he really cared about making a difference, he can do that on his own with his large YouTube following and social media–which he is doing. He made this about HIM. So now we have a bunch of people who are butt-hurt because other people aren’t cowering.

        Bottom line up front: HE is a BULLY! HE is dividing the quilting community by publicly calling out someone and pressuring them to cave to his demand to speak. Everybody knows that’s NOT how you conduct ANY sensitive business or conversation with possible delicate matters. This was an outright threat. I’d definitely be talking to my corporate attorney right about now.

        None of us had a say in the color of our skin. But I’ll be damned if I’m going to let someone bully me into feeling ashamed of who I am. OR push me into cowing. WHY does every aspect of our lives have to be filled with racism? MSQC silence is NOT consent to racism. They’re a QUILTING COMPANY for goodness sakes! Stop the petty shi*! Get over yourselves. Sooo sick of the garbage.


    2. Wow lady. Guess you recognize vile behavior because your response is just that. I’m sure Ginny can speak for herself

  36. Lack of comment is not surprising. Please research African Americans in the Mormon Church. It wasn’t until the late 1970’s that black people could participate in rituals or become priests. Book of Mormon described their members as “white and delightful persons”.

  37. Thank you for sharing your letter, Matthew! Missouri Star Quilt Company, please lead in this. Change and justice are the responsibility of those with privilege. Silence is violence.

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